Decided to write bout this topic, cos it's been on my mind for sometime already.
Still remembered the time in Sec 3. The Fairfield PB committee was sent to SJI for a 3 day camp with their school councilors. Its just some enrichment camp sorta thingy, and a learn-from-them session... cos we were also about to do a organisation restructuring, which would later bring about the involvement of the dearly beloved P Song, but that's totally another story.. so anyway.
Back to the post. One thing that I remembered the most in that camp, was a session called: the hugging session. Okay, that aint the official name of that program, cos i would have forgotten it anyway. But what we did that session, was hug. Haha Well, we were all seated in the lecture theatre... and the brother (they're a catholic school) who's also the teacher-in-charge of the council was giving a lesson on hugs. The different types of hugs, between man and woman, between friends, or the pervetic hug. I guess there's nothing different bout the techniques of hugging.. or are there? hhaha.. but guess he was telling us the motive behind the hug. So he was introducing to us the 'hug therapy', something the western world is so familiar with, and which I envy too. After his lecture, he hit the CDs and asked everyone to hug one another. So imagine a whole LT full of guys, going around hugging each other, and getting all emotional and hyped up...
Hugs.. I really love them. Who wouldnt? But the big problem here in S'pore is that... it aint our culture! Hmmm, sometimes I really do wish I could recieve hugs from friends, and I wanna give them too. It doesnt matter if a guy or a gal gives me one... cos I feel that true hugs speaks so much more than words. Its the feeling of closeness, of warmth and love that says so much. Yeah, I believe in touch therapy, but I never got a chance to give my loved ones hugs. Perhaps cos we're all shy. Sometimes I see the Americans or westerners hugging thier friends when they meet, even the opposite sex. It gets me wondering, can we adopt that? Or are we bold enough to step out to do it? The only times i got to hug people is in Changi. Haha... I really wish it could be our societal norm. An expression of love, of gratitude... and how much you mean to the other person. A simple hug just speaks so much, esp. in times of a need of a friend.
I thought about this before, whether to give hugs to my closest friends. Hmmm... but wasnt sure if he is comfortable with it. Perhaps the next time i'll just do it, and heck what society thinks.
There aint nothing wrong with being conservative. In fact, conservative is good... but but I sure just wish some of our culture could be changed, and be a little more open minded.
